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Originally posted by oscarspoe

Hey, nonnie. I’m sure you’re not the only one weirded out. But hobbies don’t stop after kids. I’m not going to make any apologies about being a mom and posting what I choose to on my blog. If it’s weird or strange to you, feel free to unfollow or filter out “navybrat rambles”. Maybe I’ll make a brand new tag just for my family talk.

And maybe you truly didn’t mean it as a slight or to shame me, but I don’t get the weirdness of age or who has kids or not on this site.

If someone would like to point me in the direction of a site that is like Tumblr but not Tumblr, I’m all ears. 😂 Please and thank you. ❤️

The literal children on here need to deal with their internalized misogyny before they send messages like this.

I’m so fucking over it.

• Do you know that when you turn 30, you don’t become a 80+ grandma?
• Do you know that women’s sex lives don’t end after they have kids?
• Do you know that hobbies aren’t just for teenage girls, but also grown ass women?
• Do you know that ageism is fucked up and problematic?
• Do you know that moms had passions and thoughts and feelings and opinions and desires before they had kids – and they didn’t disappear as soon as they gave birth?

I’m not a mother. But I get so disgusted how people on here treat women they know are older than them and/or are mothers. Women can be mothers and write smut. They are not mutually exclusives, you absolute idiots.

If this continues, you’re going to force the best writers off this platform. Ya know, the women who have life experience and know how to write realistic and healthy relationships.

i have bad news for this anon about how children are made

I also have some bad news for this anon about the age and sex of the creators of the media that fandom comes from.

I just. Wow. I’d love to check back with Nonny in 10 years and see how they feel about this comment. It’s not gonna age well. All the stuff that everyone else already said, plus you know what? Adulting is fucking hard. Let us play. Let us have an outlet without shaming us. We can be multidimensional. It’s possible to tell your kid to stop hitting his sister with the duplo block grenades he made and then turn around and thirst on a post. It helps you not kill your spawn who are now scaling the couch like little monkeys while dumping chocolate milk all over your floor. Jesus Christ. Grow up.

^^ All of this but also, ageism aside, can we not, like, perpetuate the idea that once a woman has children then those children become her identity?

A lot of posts like this defend that women are allowed to have hobbies/outlets even after they’re 30, and obviously yes true, but also women are allowed to have hobbies even after they’ve procreated.

Women are people with hobbies. Women are people.

I am a person and I am a mom COEXIST. It isn’t I am a mom, therefore I am no longer a separate person.

Stop judging people on their ages and the hobbies they have at those ages, stop judging people for how they spend their spare time, but also stop saying that once a woman has procreated, she is defined as being a mother first and a person second (and should act accordingly).

“I’m not saying you shouldn’t be allowed to have hobbies.”

I find it strange that you think I need your permission.

There’s a whole lot of shit this person said that they didn’t mean to say.

I may get shit for this but I also have to wonder if this is due in part at least to the weird age segregation that a lot of tumblr kids seem to insist upon? Like, if the only adults you ever interact with are your parents or other authority figures, then yeah, I can see how you think adults only exist to do jobs or raise kids. It’s been your only experience with adults. 

Like when I was young I had friends who were adults. I had older cousins who would take me to movies and hang out with me and play board games, I met older writers and artists in fandom on forums and ff.net and livejournal, and as I got older I made friends with adults in the context of my first few jobs. So I knew that people could exist as adults outside the context of raising and/or teaching children, because I’d had exposure to and experience with people of all ages. 

But lately I see things online that are literally like “if you’re 15 don’t talk to the 20 year olds in the group chat” and “friendships with adults are toxic because of power imbalances” so like…yeah, I see how these kids could have such a disconnect with the idea of adults as people.

Idk just a possible theory for this weird trend of “omg you’re an adult on tumblr?! What about your taxes?! Who is making dinner for your children!?!?!” And to me it’s sort of sad. If I’d grown up thinking I had such an early expiration date for all the things I loved, I’d’ve probably been a lot more depressed than I already was. 

Adults are literally just people who get slightly more excited about going to the housewares section than they used to.