Me: hey babe I picked up coffee for us on my way home

Someone who has literally never touched grass: QUEEN HE DOESNT DESERVE IT - YOU ARE NOT HIS SLAVE - THE FACT YOU CANT SEE THIS MAKES YOU A TRADWIFE - GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN

Some of you are falling for the radfem rhetoric that because the patriarchy exists no individual man could be a decent human being or deserving of kindness

The same way that housewives who CHOOSE to be housewives while their husbands work DO exist and are NOT traitors or opppressed

This is actually really important to me so I’m going to keep talking about it. My mom was a stay-at-home mom for my entire childhood. She chose to drop out of her master’s program to raise me, even though my father and her entire family had offered to come together and raise the baby so she could finish out her degree.

After I was born, she talked to a close friend about if she’d made the right choice - she felt like she was relegating herself to a life without importance - she felt that society had told her that to be important she has to go get her degree and “change the world.” Her friend told her that if she is raising her children to be good people, she’s changing the world by being present for them and helping them live their fullest potential.

My mom believed in this principle so strongly that she followed it for most of my life and dedicated long hours to schooling us at home (at least 3 of us kids were neurodivergent - I can confidently say I wouldn’t have survived as my authentic self in a public school).

My mom and dad have one of the best relationships I’ve ever seen - it’s one I aspire to and admire all the time. My father has overwhelming respect and love for my mom, which she has for him as well. They like to sit on the patio or in the living room and have a drink while they just talk for long hours alone together. They miss each other when they’re gone. I once found a love note from my dad to my mom the day he left on a business trip and at the time I was embarrassed but in retrospect who doesn’t want the kind of partner who writes love notes after being together 10, 15, 25 years?

To assume my mom was oppressed, conservative, didn’t make her own choice, didn’t think about the implications of her choice, or didn’t have a relationship that was both equal and loving makes you look stupid and to a certain degree sexist yourself.

People will be rude as hell to stay-at-home moms for no damn reason. Even if you haven’t seen it happen I guarantee it’s happened.

It's also a form of misogyny to devalue what is seen as traditionally feminine work — the raising of kids, housework, cooking, etc. Any feminism that places value only on women occupying typically masculine roles — having careers, etc — is actually just perpetuating this misogynist tradition

While it's important to give women options, it's also important to remember that there's a reason why we look down on this kind of typical "woman's work", and it's not (just) because we're afraid of oppression — it's because patriarchy has devalued and minimised it to the point of poisoning it in our minds. We don't see it as important, and yet it is one of the most important roles you will ever perform. And its one that should be enthusiastically performed regardless of gender. Otherwise all we're going to do is raise children who will perpetuate these patriarchal ideas

Always remember that feminism is about the power of choice. We don't HAVE to be wives and/or mothers if we don't want to be but we have the power to CHOOSE TO DO SO IF WE WANT!

I chose to have a career, I chose to get married to my amazing husband, and I chose not to have children. That's the life I want for myself and no one gets to tell me what I should or shouldn't be doing.

You aren't stopping the patriarchy by telling women that they can't do something they want to do, even if that something involves a 'traditionally feminine role'! If you tell someone they're wrong for wanting to be married or have kids or be a stay at home wife/mother, then you're no better than the sexist asshole who says a woman's place is in the kitchen.

Feminism has always been about choice. Literally NO ONE gets to choose a woman's role except for the woman herself. And a woman isn't wasting her life if she decides she doesn't want that high powered degree or career. Like the poster above me said - traditionally feminine work is vastly important. Don't devalue it under the guise of being woke.

(And yes, before any transphobes think this post is for them, this absolutely includes trans women! Your feminism isn't feminism if you don't support ALL women in their right to choose what they want for themselves.)